When Odysseus went off to fight the Trojan War, as reported by Homer in The Odyssey, he didn’t take along his wet-behind-the-ears son, who was destined to be heir to his throne.

Concerned about who would give his son “kinging skills,” he chose an old family friend, Mentor, to be Telemachus’ teacher. Mentor was known for his wisdom and trust-building sensitivity. It’s the origin of our word for a master teacher and trusted advisor.

Conveying wise words in a manner that they are heard, internalized, and put into practice is a challenge for all mentors. Mentors provide feedback, give encouragement, ask great questions, and engage in thought-provoking discussions. And sometimes they attempt the most anxiety-inducing activity: advice-giving. Recall the last time someone said to you, “Let me give you a little advice.” Was your mental response, “Bring it on,” or was it a bit more defensive?

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